Wrong Delivery: 3 Marriage Thoughts on Communication

We have an ongoing issue in the Barringer home. Our mailbox, periodically, gets mail for someone who lives 4 blocks from us. It’s not like it’s random mail from the neighborhood but from a home who possesses the same house number but on a completely different street. It’s kind of frustrating, but we do whatContinue reading “Wrong Delivery: 3 Marriage Thoughts on Communication”

Beyond Words: 6 Ways to Express “I Love You” Without Words

Once in awhile, I feel the need to write a disclaimer for a blog. This is one of those blogs. DISCLAIMER: I believe in talking to each other. Communication is the oil of the engine of marriage. As it flows so does everything else. I DO NOT want you to stop talking to each other.Continue reading “Beyond Words: 6 Ways to Express “I Love You” Without Words”

Unclouding Your Communication: The 3 “Ts” of Talking

“Words kill, words give life; they’re either poison or fruit—you choose.” Proverbs 18:21 (The Message) I talk with couples all the time in a variety of locations. From coffee houses to homes to my office (my favorite is talking marriage over froyo), I love that people are taking their marriage seriously by getting outside input.  SideContinue reading “Unclouding Your Communication: The 3 “Ts” of Talking”

The Art of Reinforcement: 5 Ways to Reinforce Your Marriage

I’m on vacation in Virginia right now.  It’s been refreshing to hang out with my family, set aside emails and messages, and totally focus upon rest. We’ve spent a lot of time going through villages and small towns that have survived decades, and for some, well over a century. But amidst all of the buildings andContinue reading “The Art of Reinforcement: 5 Ways to Reinforce Your Marriage”

“I wish you were more like…”…and 6 other lines we shouldn’t say in marriage.

Proverbs 18:21 “Death and life are in the power of the tongue, and those who love it will eat its fruits.” I always, say, “Communication is the oil of the engine of marriage.” And just like the car you drive, you cannot afford to use the same oil for great lengths of time.  Oil mustContinue reading ““I wish you were more like…”…and 6 other lines we shouldn’t say in marriage.”

Silence is NOT Golden: 5 Helps When Silence Hits Your Marriage

The question driving today blog: Is your heart for your marriage stronger than your silence? Isaiah 62:1 For Zion’s sake I will not keep silent, And for Jerusalem’s sake I will not keep quiet, Until her righteousness goes forth like brightness, And her salvation like a torch that is burning. Silence can be good.  Small incrementsContinue reading “Silence is NOT Golden: 5 Helps When Silence Hits Your Marriage”

Warning Shots: 10 subtle actions your marriage needs to pay attention to.

You’ve opened my ears so I can listen. Psalm 40:6 I’m an aficionado of military movies.  And there’s certain lines and terms that you can count on hearing frequently.  For some reason, especially in movies involving ships, you’ll hear the term: warning shot.  A warning shot is a military and/or police term describing an intentionally harmlessContinue reading “Warning Shots: 10 subtle actions your marriage needs to pay attention to.”

2 Minute Devo: Ecclesiastes Day 2

September is all about diving into the book of Ecclesiastes.  Watch the devo and read the scripture for today:   Ecclesiastes 7:20-22 20 Surely there is not a righteous man on earth who does good and never sins. 21 Do not take to heart all the things that people say, lest you hear your servant cursing you.Continue reading “2 Minute Devo: Ecclesiastes Day 2”

Marriage Blog: “It’s just not me.”

We’ve all used it to get out of things we don’t want to do. “Do you want to ride the roller coaster?” “No. It’s just not me.” “Do you want to try escargot?” “No.  It’s just not me.” “Do you like country music? “No. It’s just not me. It’s kind of our nice way of telling peopleContinue reading “Marriage Blog: “It’s just not me.””

New Series: Marital Catchphrases – “Yes Dear!”

Proverbs 13:3 “Careful words make for a careful life; careless talk may ruin everything.” (The Message) I’ll share with you a secret about my marriage. Anne and I talk in “catchphrases” from TV show and movies.  I don’t know when it began, but somewhere early in our 15 years of marriage, phrases from favorite shows andContinue reading “New Series: Marital Catchphrases – “Yes Dear!””