Quality Beats Quantity: 2 Thoughts about Marital Communication

You may know what you are talking about but does your spouse know what you are talking about? It’s a pretty sobering question if you really ponder on it. All too often, I take for granted, because of our 20 years of marriage, that Anne is just going to get what I’m saying. Not necessarilyContinue reading “Quality Beats Quantity: 2 Thoughts about Marital Communication”

Marriage Blog: 2 Thoughts about Navigating Through Your Differences

I’m a proponent of dating before and after marriage. Dating, in my opinion, is a very good thing on both sides of marriage. What you used to win a heart before marriage helps you keep a heart after you’ve married.  But if you’re not careful, you can get deceived by the pre-marriage dating process. LetContinue reading “Marriage Blog: 2 Thoughts about Navigating Through Your Differences”

Turn Signals: 2 Types of Marital Signals

We all have signals. Whether we purposely try, we operate in them all the time. I can pick up the signals from my staff on what kind of morning they’ve had just by their body language, the tone of their voice, or their silence when they come in and slam their office door. Two SundaysContinue reading “Turn Signals: 2 Types of Marital Signals”

Use your inside voice: 5 Thoughts on Your Marital Tone

“If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone.” – Romans 12:18 “Use your inside voice” has been a parenting tactic for years. For some parents, it’s an attempt at telling a child to “quiet down” but in a nicer way. Randomly, I hear parents tell this toContinue reading “Use your inside voice: 5 Thoughts on Your Marital Tone”

Marriage with Ketchup: 5 Ways to Get Perspective

I love hearing people’s stories. It’s amazing how when you stop and listen to someone you can, first show value to them by shutting up and listening. “Listening” is not waiting for your turn to talk. It’s showing genuine interest in knowing who the person is and what they’re trying to convey. Second, listening isContinue reading “Marriage with Ketchup: 5 Ways to Get Perspective”

Talking to Yourself: How Self-talk May Help Your Marriage

“For as he thinketh in his heart, so is he…” Proverbs 23:7 I have conversations all day long, 7 days a week. And some of those conversation are actually with people other than myself.  Now, before you click off the blog and pray for me to stop talking to myself so much, you’d probably need toContinue reading “Talking to Yourself: How Self-talk May Help Your Marriage”

Fix the Disconnect: 7 Simple Steps to Re-establishing a Date Night

It’s Friday, and for Dave and Anne, it’s “date day.” It wasn’t always that way. Almost 19 years ago, Anne married a workaholic who felt the urgency (and still does) to get work done 7 days a week. I can use that as an excuse and chalk that up to the nature of my work ethic. OrContinue reading “Fix the Disconnect: 7 Simple Steps to Re-establishing a Date Night”

Lift the Lid: 3 Ways to Raise the Level of Your Marriage

I’m an eclectic reader.  As a pastor, my “reading bent” may be toward marital subjects, but I like to read on a variety of topic as I desire to constantly grow. And what I find myself doing is, as I read, I journal thoughts for personal reflection and make notes for future/potential sermon use. It was about aContinue reading “Lift the Lid: 3 Ways to Raise the Level of Your Marriage”

Reducing your “…but”: 4 Thoughts on Encouraging Your Spouse

I’ve begun a few workout regiment. Physical fitness, in whatever form, has been a tremendous outlet for my own stress while being a great input for healthy living. I know there are people who tell me “there’s no time for working out.” I’m not saying you need to do the 2-hour gym-rat thing, but you canContinue reading “Reducing your “…but”: 4 Thoughts on Encouraging Your Spouse”

The Flyover: 11 Marriage Conference Thoughts

I’m a pastor who loves to preach series. Why? There are so many sections of scripture, subjects, thoughts, and topics that are waaaaay too much for one sermon. And I think, us pastors, can be at fault for giving so much info packed in one message that it makes it impossible for people to digestContinue reading “The Flyover: 11 Marriage Conference Thoughts”