Quality Beats Quantity: 2 Thoughts about Marital Communication

You may know what you are talking about but does your spouse know what you are talking about? It’s a pretty sobering question if you really ponder on it. All too often, I take for granted, because of our 20 years of marriage, that Anne is just going to get what I’m saying. Not necessarilyContinue reading “Quality Beats Quantity: 2 Thoughts about Marital Communication”

Wrong Delivery: 3 Marriage Thoughts on Communication

We have an ongoing issue in the Barringer home. Our mailbox, periodically, gets mail for someone who lives 4 blocks from us. It’s not like it’s random mail from the neighborhood but from a home who possesses the same house number but on a completely different street. It’s kind of frustrating, but we do whatContinue reading “Wrong Delivery: 3 Marriage Thoughts on Communication”

Marriage Mondays: 3 Ways We Can Play fair

So I thought I’d try something new. For the past 5 years-ish, I’ve reserved most of my marriage blogging for Fridays as people are heading into the weekend. So I thought, like a good cup of Costa Rican coffee on Monday morning, I’d start off the week with a simple marital challenge. So today, IContinue reading “Marriage Mondays: 3 Ways We Can Play fair”

Use your inside voice: 5 Thoughts on Your Marital Tone

“If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone.” – Romans 12:18 “Use your inside voice” has been a parenting tactic for years. For some parents, it’s an attempt at telling a child to “quiet down” but in a nicer way. Randomly, I hear parents tell this toContinue reading “Use your inside voice: 5 Thoughts on Your Marital Tone”

“Do you even hear yourself?” 3 Thoughts of Fixing Your Marital Gait

Last week we began our annual vision series at Kfirst. And for every series, we have a sermon “bumper video.” It’s a very short video that brings the focus of the service to the message that is about to be preached. Usually, I see the video before it’s launched. But last Sunday, I was seeing itContinue reading ““Do you even hear yourself?” 3 Thoughts of Fixing Your Marital Gait”

Drop Your Resolutions: 3 Thoughts About Changes in Your Marriage

A few days ago, I sat at around a table and we talked about resolutions. I’ll be honest, I’m just not a proponent of them. Why? Because they tend to be an “all or nothing” mentality. If you’re struggling to take steps toward them, you quit. If you didn’t reach the full “resolution” then you didn’tContinue reading “Drop Your Resolutions: 3 Thoughts About Changes in Your Marriage”

Unclouding Your Communication: The 3 “Ts” of Talking

“Words kill, words give life; they’re either poison or fruit—you choose.” Proverbs 18:21 (The Message) I talk with couples all the time in a variety of locations. From coffee houses to homes to my office (my favorite is talking marriage over froyo), I love that people are taking their marriage seriously by getting outside input.  SideContinue reading “Unclouding Your Communication: The 3 “Ts” of Talking”

“I wish you were more like…”…and 6 other lines we shouldn’t say in marriage.

Proverbs 18:21 “Death and life are in the power of the tongue, and those who love it will eat its fruits.” I always, say, “Communication is the oil of the engine of marriage.” And just like the car you drive, you cannot afford to use the same oil for great lengths of time.  Oil mustContinue reading ““I wish you were more like…”…and 6 other lines we shouldn’t say in marriage.”

Pants On Fire: 5 Steps to dealing with lying in your marriage!

Truthful lips endure forever, but a lying tongue is but for a moment. Proverbs 12:19 Marriage is a covenant.  A promise. In our wedding vows, trust is both explicit or implicit. It permeates the commitment we make to our spouse so that we can start off from the foundation of trust both in Christ andContinue reading “Pants On Fire: 5 Steps to dealing with lying in your marriage!”