Wrong Delivery: 3 Marriage Thoughts on Communication

We have an ongoing issue in the Barringer home. Our mailbox, periodically, gets mail for someone who lives 4 blocks from us. It’s not like it’s random mail from the neighborhood but from a home who possesses the same house number but on a completely different street. It’s kind of frustrating, but we do whatContinue reading “Wrong Delivery: 3 Marriage Thoughts on Communication”

What spoon do I use? 2 Thoughts on Dealing with Marital Measurements

From the youngest of ages, I’ve enjoyed cooking. For me, it’s quite therapeutic to chop, dice, slice, filet, etc. But I confess, even though I’ve cooked hundreds of meals… I don’t know the difference between a tablespoon and teaspoon. Stupid huh? I literally watch Food Network on my iPad while I cook and I still haveContinue reading “What spoon do I use? 2 Thoughts on Dealing with Marital Measurements”

Valentine Response: 2 Marital Responses to this Holiday

If you know me, I’m a huge fan of marriage. I love studying the beauty of how man and woman come together in a moment and take a lifetime of being woven together with Jesus to form a “cord not easily broken.” I marvel at how two broken, imperfect, and opposites can connect and commitContinue reading “Valentine Response: 2 Marital Responses to this Holiday”

Easing the Frustration: Creating Marital Change 7 Days at a Time

Ever been frustrated with your spouse? Yep. Every been discouraged in your marriage? Me to. Every been disappointed in your mate? Never. Would Anne have answered these in a similar way? Absolutely (with the exception that she’d tell the truth on question #3). Congrats. You have a very normal and a very human marriage.  YetContinue reading “Easing the Frustration: Creating Marital Change 7 Days at a Time”

What does the future of your marriage look like? 3 Questions to Ask

I’m not married to the same woman I married back in 1998. Let me clarify. I’m married to the same human, but she’s not the same person. Really, neither one of us are. Marriage wasn’t meant to be a change of a title (single to married) or a feat to accomplish. Marriage is raw materialContinue reading “What does the future of your marriage look like? 3 Questions to Ask”

Pro Tips: 4 Ways to Get (& Be) Marriage Help

Ever heard of the term “pro tip”? It’s origin came from gamers who were mocking novices. Nowadays, it’s become internet slang for “tips given by professionals to those who are lesser experienced.” Simply said, a “pro tip” is information intended to help convert a novice to an expert. About 20 years ago, a very experienced pastorContinue reading “Pro Tips: 4 Ways to Get (& Be) Marriage Help”

Shed the Shame: 4 Ways Shame Adds A Burden to Our Marriage

There’s a gentleman in our church community who’s introduced me and my son to backpacking. Ethan and I have fallen in love with it. We talk about it frequently as, every time we go, we enjoy it immensely and learn something new to apply to our next experience.  That, by itself, would make a goodContinue reading “Shed the Shame: 4 Ways Shame Adds A Burden to Our Marriage”

“TV saved my marriage” 4 Ways to Reconnect Your Marriage

It was the summer of ’03. Anne and I were in a store walking through with the kids secured in our double-stroller. We were in a season of life that was a bit hectic. Cammi was 3 and Ethan wasn’t even 1 yet. We were still discovering who we were as a ministry couple notContinue reading ““TV saved my marriage” 4 Ways to Reconnect Your Marriage”

The Carryover: 4 Ways to Approach What You Carried Into Marriage

I had a realization about 9 years ago. At the time, my daughter was in fourth grade and I was staring at her homework and it hit me: Cammi’s math had exceeded my abilities. I could no longer help her. I’d love to say this is some sort of exaggeration, but sadly, no. Once her mathContinue reading “The Carryover: 4 Ways to Approach What You Carried Into Marriage”

More than the Spider: 4 Thoughts on Bringing Value In Marriage

I hear it quite often, “There’s a huge spider. I need you to come get it.” In my home, it’s a statement both my wife and my daughter use. It never is “There’s a spider…” but “There’s a HUGE spider…” And, over time, their judgement on “size” has dulled my urgency a bit. When IContinue reading “More than the Spider: 4 Thoughts on Bringing Value In Marriage”