The Cheap Seats: Controlling Our Opinions

Search me, O God, and know my heart! Try me and know my thoughts! And see if there be any grievous way in me, and lead me in the way everlasting! Psalm 139:23-24 The “cheap seats” is a simple term to describe a location in a stadium, in particular, older stadiums. In this day and age, most areasContinue reading “The Cheap Seats: Controlling Our Opinions”

Use your inside voice: 5 Thoughts on Your Marital Tone

“If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone.” – Romans 12:18 “Use your inside voice” has been a parenting tactic for years. For some parents, it’s an attempt at telling a child to “quiet down” but in a nicer way. Randomly, I hear parents tell this toContinue reading “Use your inside voice: 5 Thoughts on Your Marital Tone”

Lift the Lid: 3 Ways to Raise the Level of Your Marriage

I’m an eclectic reader.  As a pastor, my “reading bent” may be toward marital subjects, but I like to read on a variety of topic as I desire to constantly grow. And what I find myself doing is, as I read, I journal thoughts for personal reflection and make notes for future/potential sermon use. It was about aContinue reading “Lift the Lid: 3 Ways to Raise the Level of Your Marriage”

Reducing your “…but”: 4 Thoughts on Encouraging Your Spouse

I’ve begun a few workout regiment. Physical fitness, in whatever form, has been a tremendous outlet for my own stress while being a great input for healthy living. I know there are people who tell me “there’s no time for working out.” I’m not saying you need to do the 2-hour gym-rat thing, but you canContinue reading “Reducing your “…but”: 4 Thoughts on Encouraging Your Spouse”

Set Up For Success : 2 Healthy Selfless Disciplines of Marriage

I’m a huge believer in the power of words in marriage. In fact, I believe your marriage will never rise above your words. Your words have power. They carry meaning, have weight, and convey emotional tone – good and bad. And just because you use a lot of them, doesn’t mean you excel at communicatingContinue reading “Set Up For Success : 2 Healthy Selfless Disciplines of Marriage”

Monday Kfirst Kickstart: “Growing an Environment of Faith” #TheTwo

Lord use my mouth at your discretion and for your glory. #TheTwo @KalamazooFirst @RavennaMyers pic.twitter.com/hWdqjF918m — ben kahler (@benkahler) November 6, 2016 Today I want to give you a place to start your week. It’s Monday and in the wake of a great weekend and long workweek ahead, sometimes you just need a “kickstart” toContinue reading “Monday Kfirst Kickstart: “Growing an Environment of Faith” #TheTwo”

Beyond Words: 6 Ways to Express “I Love You” Without Words

Once in awhile, I feel the need to write a disclaimer for a blog. This is one of those blogs. DISCLAIMER: I believe in talking to each other. Communication is the oil of the engine of marriage. As it flows so does everything else. I DO NOT want you to stop talking to each other.Continue reading “Beyond Words: 6 Ways to Express “I Love You” Without Words”

“I wish you were more like…”…and 6 other lines we shouldn’t say in marriage.

Proverbs 18:21 “Death and life are in the power of the tongue, and those who love it will eat its fruits.” I always, say, “Communication is the oil of the engine of marriage.” And just like the car you drive, you cannot afford to use the same oil for great lengths of time.  Oil mustContinue reading ““I wish you were more like…”…and 6 other lines we shouldn’t say in marriage.”

2 Minute Devo: What are you thinking Day 16

We’re focusing on what the Bible says about the “mind” and how that affects us.  Spend time on the devo and take a minute or two to ponder what the Word is challenging you to do. Matthew 12:33-34 “Either make the tree good and its fruit good, or make the tree bad and its fruitContinue reading “2 Minute Devo: What are you thinking Day 16”

2 Minute Devo: What are you thinking Day 14

We’re focusing on what the Bible says about the “mind” and how that affects us.  Spend time on the devo and take a minute or two to ponder what the Word is challenging you to do. Luke 6:45 The good person out of the good treasure of his heart produces good, and the evil personContinue reading “2 Minute Devo: What are you thinking Day 14”