Monday Kfirst Kickstart: “Trust the Process” #WisdomSeries #BeAProverb

Today I want to give you a place to start your week. It’s Monday and in the wake of a great weekend and a workweek ahead, sometimes you just need a “kickstart” to get focused.  So grab some coffee let’s start a great week together.

 

 

 

 

 

Sunday, we continued our series at Kfirst. Every July and August, we have a summer series and this year we turned our focus onto Proverbs.

This amazing and often misunderstood book was used hundreds of years ago to prepare people for a wise life in service to their king. Today, we glean from it to help us live wise lives in service to Jesus our King. 

Other thoughts from Sunday:

  • Read our Proverbs reading plan by clicking HERE.
  • Tomorrow’s wisdom is grown from today’s surrender.
  • Grace doesn’t just lead to a moment of change but leaves a trail of change.
  • God doesn’t abandon us to be victimized by life but uses it to grow us.
  • Discipline is choosing between what you want now and what you want most.
  • I can have the pain of correction today or I can live with the pain of regret tomorrow.
  • God’s grace is not just for salvation, but for every struggle we face.
  • Father, I offer my eyes, my ears, my mouth, my hands, and my heart to you, so that I can walk in wisdom in whatever opportunities you might offer me today.

Love you all. Have an amazing week.

BTW: Here’s a new song for you.

Monday Kfirst Kickstart: “Be A Proverb” #WisdomSeries #BeAProverb

Today I want to give you a place to start your week. It’s Monday and in the wake of a great weekend and a workweek ahead, sometimes you just need a “kickstart” to get focused.  So grab some coffee let’s start a great week together.

 

 

 

 

 

Sunday, we kicked off a new series at Kfirst. Every July we launch a summer series and this year we turned our focus onto Proverbs.

This amazing and often misunderstood book was used hundreds of years ago to prepare people for a wise life in service to their king. Today, we glean from it to help us live wise lives in service to Jesus our King. 

Check out this week’s message:

https://twitter.com/DawnHause/status/1018517380975165440

Other thoughts from Sunday:

  • Read our Proverbs reading plan by clicking HERE.
  • Wisdom is not in what you know but how well you live.
  • Surrender is saying “yes“ to God before receiving the “terms and conditions.“
  • Don’t look for a proverb to fix your life; be a proverb to shape the world.
  • “…but to those who are called, both Jews and Greeks, Christ the power of God and the wisdom of God.” 1 Corinthians 1:24 ESV
  • Wisdom doesn’t reflect what I feel is right but what is true about Jesus.
  • Ask for wisdom. Repeat often.
    • “If you need wisdom, ask our generous God, and he will give it to you. He will not rebuke you for asking.” – James 1:5 NLT
  • Father, I offer my eyes, my ears, my mouth, my hands, and my heart to you, so that I can walk in wisdom in whatever opportunities you might offer me today.

Love you all. Have an amazing week.

BTW: Here’s the new song we used yesterday.

What my parents didn’t teach me about marriage – Part 3

Two weeks ago, we started this new blog series that focused upon the things my parents didn’t teach me based upon some of the issues we see today.  Again, please don’t take any of the following blogs as a guilt trip to those who have struggled or have made mistakes.  I do not elevate anyone, including my parents, above Christ. But I do obey scripture to “give honor to whom honor is due.”

To catch up, read Part 1  and Part 2 of the series here.

Part 3…what didn’t my parents teach me?  They didn’t teach me to withhold encouragement.  

I stand by a statement I said to our congregation at Kfirst on March 23rd, 2013:

“If you are NOT an encourager, you will NEVER become the spouse/parent God wants you to be.”

That message was a crossroads for me as a believer and pastor.  I remember the season of ministry I was in. It was astounding the amount of people (including pastors) that were calling me just discouraged.  They were broken and bruised.  These people were either beat up by discouragement or starved by the lack of encouragement.

What does that have to do with what I learned from my parents and or marriage? Well, first of all, they were married.  Secondly, they are pastors.  I have seen them discouraged in life and ministry.  Yet of all of the things they didn’t teach me, they didn’t teach me to allow their circumstances to make them serve encouragement sparingly.

I don’t think of a single time in my life where I didn’t see them encourage each other, their children, or the congregation they served.  I can’t even recall moments in my life as a child/teen/adult where they were not the first to step up as an encourager in my life.  Believe me, they’ve had every excuse to not be encouraging. I’ve seen people treat them terribly.  As a pastor’s kid, I’ve watched discouraging moments happen to them.  People have taken advantage of their kindness.  Others have turned their back on them.  Circumstances have come and gone that would’ve depleted anyone of joy…yet, no excuses were given and words of edification were always in great supply.

Now, I recognize that many people (possibly you the reader) never had that growing up and/or have it now as an adult.  As stated in my first blog of this series, they’re not perfect.  But their example has shown me this:

No matter if you had someone to encourage you in your past or not…
No matter what you are dealing with right now…
No matter if there’s no one in your corner right now…

…you can and should be an encourager.

Proverbs 11:25 “he who refreshes others will himself be refreshed.”

The cycle of discouragement must stop here and NOW. You may have an excuse to not encourage.  We all do.  I know my parents did and probably still do.  Life is hard.  Sometimes life just plain sucks. But there’s something powerful about the issue of encouragement: when we launch out to refresh others, we get refreshed.    I don’t believe the refreshing comes from others.  I believe it comes from the Lord.  If you are depending upon your spouse (or anyone for that matter) to be the one to “fresh” you, it is clear that your life is centered upon deriving meaning, purpose, and joy from limited finite sources.  In Christ we find life.  And it’s from Him we get refreshed.

Stop waiting for others to refresh and replenish you.  Don’t wait for your spouse to be the one to take the first step.  Christ didn’t wait till we were ready to receive him to give hope to our discouraging circumstances.  He gave.

And because he gave…we too can give.

Keep encouraging.  Keep refreshing and let Christ help you become the spouse you need to be.

Thanks for letting me ramble…

 

2 Minute Devo: What are you thinking Day 15

We’re focusing on what the Bible says about the “mind” and how that affects us.  Spend time on the devo and take a minute or two to ponder what the Word is challenging you to do.

Proverbs 4:23

Keep your heart with all vigilance, for from it flow the springs of life.

 

Dark Chocolate is Necessary for Marriage: Marriage Blog

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We buy dark chocolate for our home candy dish.  Reason being: Anne and I do NOT like dark chocolate.  Our kids don’t either. Therefore, the candy dish stays full and look pretty with the shiny foil untouched by human hands.

But the point of desperation came. It’s that sweet-tooth that appears around 10:30 at night.  You know what I’m talking about.  As you sit back in the late night fare that television offers you, there begins a deep desire for your palate to be indulging in the sweetness of chocolate.  There was none to be found except in the candy dish.  It’s amazing what desperation will make you do. 

I grabbed the Ghirardelli dark chocolate with sea salt caramel.  It was the beginning of the end.

The dish was empty in three days. 

Ghirardelli dark chocolate with sea salt caramel

This month in my 2 minute devo’s, I’ve been covering what the Bible says about our words.  As I was reading through scripture, I though it would be wise to do at least one of my weekly marriage blogs on the words we use.  It is during my devo-prep, that I came across Proverbs 16:24

Kind words are like honey–sweet to the soul and healthy for the body.

Those words “honey” and “sweet” leapt off the page at me. Immediately, my mind went to my indulgence into the shadowy world of dark chocolate. Like a kid on a sugar high, I began to research dark chocolate with Proverbs 16s description of “candy-like words”.  What I discovered is dark chocolate has a number of healthy benefits. The more I read, I began to see so many parallels to dark chocolate and the words described in Proverbs 16:24.

1 – Dark Chocolate is Very Nutritious.  If you buy quality dark chocolate with a high cocoa content, then it is actually quite nutritious.The good stuff is rich in Fiber, Iron, Magnesium, Copper, Manganese and a few other minerals. But with the nutrition comes responsibility in how you eat it.

Kind words are no different in their impact. Pleasant, positive, encouraging words full of love and faith are packed with nutrition for your marriage. It will strengthen your marital muscles as you journey the marathon of life together.  So many couples take each other for granted and let their kind words be reserved for special occasions and/or when they want something.  Meanwhile, their marriage is being starved for attention.  They are operating on a nutrient depleted marriage.  Beef up the kind words and give your relationship the nutrients it needs and deserves.

2 – Dark Chocolate helps the blood flow.  Two areas that specifically benefit: The brain and the heart.  Studies show that eating a small amount of dark chocolate two or three times each week can help lower your blood pressure. Dark chocolate improves blood flow and may help prevent the formation of blood clots. Dark chocolate  increases blood flow to the brain as well as to the heart, so it can help improve cognitive function. Dark chocolate also helps reduce your risk of stroke.

Words/communication are the blood flow of marriage.  Kind words help foster great openness and health. What is different, is your spouse needs them more than two to three times a week. Kind words need to be given and received with that frequency per day.  They are as addictive as candy and can build up and grow your marriage into health.  There are too many people assuming your spouse knows how you feel.  It’s time to let your kindness be heard and, by doing that, you reduce your risk of stroke (or something just as damaging) to your marriage.

3 – Dark Chocolate is Full of AntioxidantsDark chocolate is LOADED with antioxidants. Antioxidants help free your body of free radicals, which cause oxidative damage to cells. Free radicals are implicated in the aging process and may be a cause of cancer, so eating antioxidant rich foods like dark chocolate can protect you from many types of cancer and slow the signs of aging.  Dark chocolate, literally, disarms the free radicals.

Kind words are powerful at disarming what is set up to do you harm. They will target all sorts of situations and circumstances that the devil has designed to cause damage and death to your marriage.  Kind words will not magically make things go away.  But they will lower defenses and usher in health.  Over time, consistent, authentic, and frequent words of kindness will disarm difficult moments from happening as well as be a strength through difficult seasons in marriage.

4 – Dark Chocolate may contain preventative elements.  From lowering the risk of cardiovascular disease to improving brain function, dark chocolate possesses so many healthy possibilities. This amazing sweet contains theobromine, which has been shown to harden tooth enamel and help lower your risk of getting cavities (of course combined with brushing). It has chemicals are a mild stimulant to help suppress coughs as well as elements great for your skin.

Kind words, used liberally, have so many preventative benefits. Conflict is going to naturally happen. Impasses occur.  What people don’t realize, is that a steady diet of kind words can help either avoid unnecessary conflict or lay down a foundation of strong edification that will give guidance through the storms of life.

I’ll give you a TRUTH: You don’t build a lighthouse out of desperation when the fog rolls in. Your steady marital diet of kind words  will build a strong watch tower that will be a strong guidance.  It paves the way for the light of Christ to shine to give your marriage hope, wisdom, and direction for the journey ahead. 

Like I said, kind words will not magically make things go away.  But over time, consistent, authentic, and frequent words of kindness will disarm difficult moments from happening as well as be a strength through difficult seasons in marriage.

Sit back, get some Ghirardelli dark chocolate with sea salt caramel, and speak some kind words to each other. Trust me, kind words will be like candy to your spouse “sweet to the soul and healthy for the body.” 

DISCLAIMER: I am not responsible for any calories and or lbs that may be gained after reading this blog nor has Ghirardelli paid for this blog as an advertisement for their delectable sweets.

Thanks for letting me ramble…

 

2 Minute Devo: “Defuse the Bomb” Proverbs 15:1

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August is our journey through the 2 minute series called “Watch Your Mouth”.  I want to invite you to join me as we. It’s as simple as viewing  the vlog and reading the passage for the day.  Today’s passage is Proverbs 15:1:

Proverbs 15:1

A gentle response defuses anger, but a sharp tongue kindles a temper-fire.