Solving vs. Winning: 4 Tips to Help Solve Marriage Conflict

Anne and I dated for three years (including a year-long engagement). It was a very peaceful dating life. I couldn’t tell you about a single fight/disagreement that we had until that one day in Target… Oh boy. We were registering for our wedding shower. Target had given us the “scan gun” to document everything we were hoping peopleContinue reading “Solving vs. Winning: 4 Tips to Help Solve Marriage Conflict”

Pastors and Conflict: 8 Purposeful Actions to Help Heal Conflict

Proverbs 15:1 A soft answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger. I sat in my office very early Monday and journaled about conflict.  As a pastor, I recognize that conflict is inevitable. Why? I’m human and I deal with humans.  I’m imperfect. I pastor an imperfect congregation. The more I understand that, theContinue reading “Pastors and Conflict: 8 Purposeful Actions to Help Heal Conflict”

Happy wife… Miserable husband: 6 Reasons Why Appeasement Doesn’t Work

  You’ve said it, I’ve said it: Happy wife…happy life. Call it nice.  Call it sweet.  I call it appeasement. It’s a conflict avoidance style that sacrifices your feelings, beliefs, or ideas in order to pacify or please the other person. To some, this seems like a noble identity to assume. After all, keeping peace and harmony in theContinue reading “Happy wife… Miserable husband: 6 Reasons Why Appeasement Doesn’t Work”

Dirty Laundry Can Ruin Your Marriage

            You’ve seen it and I’ve seen it.   If you are involved in ANY type of social network, you’re going to have it flashed in front of you.  Some of you deal with it in work.  Others deal with it in the neighborhood.  I see it in church aContinue reading “Dirty Laundry Can Ruin Your Marriage”

2 Minute Devos: Crash – Day 16

Welcome to “Crash”…every day: Glorify God. Pray over the daily prayer point. Pray for the lost. Today’s Scripture: 1 Corinthians 13:4-8 Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant 5 or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful;[a] 6 it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, butrejoices with the truth. 7 Love bearsContinue reading “2 Minute Devos: Crash – Day 16”

Marriage Series: Fight Club Part 4…Dessert is mandatory!

We began a series two weeks ago about fighting in marriage. If you missed the last three weeks, check out Fight Club Part 1: The first rule of Fight Club, Fight Club Part 2: Break it down, and Fight Club Part 3: Dig a Pool. As we’ve continued to state: Healthy conflict is healthy for marriage. It’s a certaintyContinue reading “Marriage Series: Fight Club Part 4…Dessert is mandatory!”

Marriage Series: Fight Club Part 3…Dig a pool

We began a series two weeks ago about fighting in marriage. If you missed the last two weeks, check out Fight Club Part 1: The first rule of Fight Club and Fight Club Part 2: Break it down. As we’ve continued to state: Healthy conflict is healthy for marriage. It’s a certainty when two imperfect people get together with theirContinue reading “Marriage Series: Fight Club Part 3…Dig a pool”

Marriage Series: Fight Club Part 2…Break it down

We began a series last week about fighting in marriage. If you missed last week, check out Fight Club Part 1: The first rule of Fight Club. As stated last week, I believe in marriage and I believe conflict happens in marriage.  But my philosophy about fighting in marriage is: Healthy conflict is healthy for marriage. It’sContinue reading “Marriage Series: Fight Club Part 2…Break it down”

The Myth of Compatibility

Men and women are different.  (Now that I’ve completely blown you away with that ground-breaking truth, I’ll continue.) What I’ve discovered, and continue to discover in my own marriage, is how different we continue to be.  It seemed like during the whole courtship/dating process, we were so much more “compatible”.  The word “compatible” means, “AbleContinue reading “The Myth of Compatibility”