Tag: communication
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“Do you even hear yourself?” 3 Thoughts of Fixing Your Marital Gait
Last week we began our annual vision series at Kfirst. And for every series, we have a sermon “bumper video.” It’s a very short video that brings the focus of the service to the message that is about to be preached. Usually, I see the video before it’s launched. But last Sunday, I was seeing it…
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Drop Your Resolutions: 3 Thoughts About Changes in Your Marriage
A few days ago, I sat at around a table and we talked about resolutions. I’ll be honest, I’m just not a proponent of them. Why? Because they tend to be an “all or nothing” mentality. If you’re struggling to take steps toward them, you quit. If you didn’t reach the full “resolution” then you didn’t…
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Set Up For Success : 2 Healthy Selfless Disciplines of Marriage
I’m a huge believer in the power of words in marriage. In fact, I believe your marriage will never rise above your words. Your words have power. They carry meaning, have weight, and convey emotional tone – good and bad. And just because you use a lot of them, doesn’t mean you excel at communicating…
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Marital A.D.D.: 2 Ways to Overcome the Deficit of Attention in Marriage
From the beginning of this blog, let me say that I don’t take things like A.D.D or A.D.H.D. lightly. According to the New York Times, at least 4 percent of adults have the disorder and as many as half of all children that have A.D.H.D. do not fully outgrow it and continue to struggle with symptoms as…
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Marriage Filters: 2 Simple Steps to Fixing Your “Filter”
– AUTHOR’S NOTE: the advice I offer today is ONLY under the idea and truth that marriage is more like a crock pot and not a microwave. Putting today’s blog into practice will be a daily choices for the long-haul and NOT a quick patch-and-fix. – With our cell phones, there has never been a…
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Unclouding Your Communication: The 3 “Ts” of Talking
“Words kill, words give life; they’re either poison or fruit—you choose.” Proverbs 18:21 (The Message) I talk with couples all the time in a variety of locations. From coffee houses to homes to my office (my favorite is talking marriage over froyo), I love that people are taking their marriage seriously by getting outside input. Side…
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The Art of Reinforcement: 5 Ways to Reinforce Your Marriage
I’m on vacation in Virginia right now. It’s been refreshing to hang out with my family, set aside emails and messages, and totally focus upon rest. We’ve spent a lot of time going through villages and small towns that have survived decades, and for some, well over a century. But amidst all of the buildings and…
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“I wish you were more like…”…and 6 other lines we shouldn’t say in marriage.
Proverbs 18:21 “Death and life are in the power of the tongue, and those who love it will eat its fruits.” I always, say, “Communication is the oil of the engine of marriage.” And just like the car you drive, you cannot afford to use the same oil for great lengths of time. Oil must…
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Victimizing my Spouse: 4 Reasons Why Sarcasm Doesn’t Work
Words from the mouth of a wise man are gracious, while the lips of a fool consume him …(Ecclesiastes 10:12). I’d say that Anne and I are pretty normal. Do we yell at each other? Yep. Do we fight? Definitely. Do we have moments where feel like terrible parents? Absolutely. Has there been so much…
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Silence is NOT Golden: 5 Helps When Silence Hits Your Marriage
The question driving today blog: Is your heart for your marriage stronger than your silence? Isaiah 62:1 For Zion’s sake I will not keep silent, And for Jerusalem’s sake I will not keep quiet, Until her righteousness goes forth like brightness, And her salvation like a torch that is burning. Silence can be good. Small increments…
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