Tag: marriage
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Drop Your Resolutions: 3 Thoughts About Changes in Your Marriage
A few days ago, I sat at around a table and we talked about resolutions. I’ll be honest, I’m just not a proponent of them. Why? Because they tend to be an “all or nothing” mentality. If you’re struggling to take steps toward them, you quit. If you didn’t reach the full “resolution” then you didn’t…
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When Should We Get Help? 4 Reasons to Get Counsel for Your Marriage
“Pride first, then the crash, but humility is precursor to honor.” Proverbs 18:12 (MSG) When it comes to marriage and marital situations, it’s very hard to shock me (I think people purposely try). Even though I’ll never say, “I’ve heard it all,” from my experiences have just afforded me to see an awful lot of situations and…
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Marriage Blog: How to Say “No” by Saying “Yes”
My family has been spending a ton of much-needed time with my parents the past few days. It’s a very nostalgic and humbling experience. It’s “nostalgic” because of the holiday mixed with the sharing of memories and stories. Humbling, because the more time I spend with my father, the more I have to face the…
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A Marginal Marriage: 7 Margins to Put in Your Marriage
I’m a fan of movies. I like suspenseful movies that bring me into their world with great effects and story lines. But if there’s a type of scene that gets my anxiety up, it’s a scene of someone who is on the verge of drowning. Watching someone working with limited space to breathe, hoping for a miracle,…
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Marital A.D.D.: 2 Ways to Overcome the Deficit of Attention in Marriage
From the beginning of this blog, let me say that I don’t take things like A.D.D or A.D.H.D. lightly. According to the New York Times, at least 4 percent of adults have the disorder and as many as half of all children that have A.D.H.D. do not fully outgrow it and continue to struggle with symptoms as…
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“Just like the picture”: 4 Approaches to Developing the Uniqueness of Your Marriage
Thank you for making me so wonderfully complex! Your workmanship is marvelous–how well I know it.” Psalm 139:14 As a pastor, I tend to visit the same places in my city. Admittingly, I’m a creature of habit but this goes deeper than that. I visit the same coffeehouse every day. I go to the same chicken place…
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Marriage Filters: 2 Simple Steps to Fixing Your “Filter”
– AUTHOR’S NOTE: the advice I offer today is ONLY under the idea and truth that marriage is more like a crock pot and not a microwave. Putting today’s blog into practice will be a daily choices for the long-haul and NOT a quick patch-and-fix. – With our cell phones, there has never been a…
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Beyond Words: 6 Ways to Express “I Love You” Without Words
Once in awhile, I feel the need to write a disclaimer for a blog. This is one of those blogs. DISCLAIMER: I believe in talking to each other. Communication is the oil of the engine of marriage. As it flows so does everything else. I DO NOT want you to stop talking to each other.…
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Who Didn’t Warn Me? 10 Things I Didn’t Totally Realize Before I Got Married
I can’t say “nobody” told me about these things. But I can truthfully say that I may not have heard everything that was said to me in the barrage of life that was hitting. I wrapped up my internship, accepted my first pastoral position, went through 6 weeks of sickness, oh, and got ready for my…
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Unclouding Your Communication: The 3 “Ts” of Talking
“Words kill, words give life; they’re either poison or fruit—you choose.” Proverbs 18:21 (The Message) I talk with couples all the time in a variety of locations. From coffee houses to homes to my office (my favorite is talking marriage over froyo), I love that people are taking their marriage seriously by getting outside input. Side…
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