Category: Marriage
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Set Up For Success : 2 Healthy Selfless Disciplines of Marriage
I’m a huge believer in the power of words in marriage. In fact, I believe your marriage will never rise above your words. Your words have power. They carry meaning, have weight, and convey emotional tone – good and bad. And just because you use a lot of them, doesn’t mean you excel at communicating…
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Marriage Blog: How to Say “No” by Saying “Yes”
My family has been spending a ton of much-needed time with my parents the past few days. It’s a very nostalgic and humbling experience. It’s “nostalgic” because of the holiday mixed with the sharing of memories and stories. Humbling, because the more time I spend with my father, the more I have to face the…
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A Marginal Marriage: 7 Margins to Put in Your Marriage
I’m a fan of movies. I like suspenseful movies that bring me into their world with great effects and story lines. But if there’s a type of scene that gets my anxiety up, it’s a scene of someone who is on the verge of drowning. Watching someone working with limited space to breathe, hoping for a miracle,…
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A Prayerful Marriage: 6 Things that are Okay to Pray Over Your Marriage
I’ll give props to Cori, my neighbor down the street. On my weekly Wednesday prayer walk, I ask my Facebook friends to post their needs so I can specifically pray over them. Her request froze me in my tracks. It was so simple, and yet, specific. Cori’s child was heading off with other 5th graders to a…
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Marital A.D.D.: 2 Ways to Overcome the Deficit of Attention in Marriage
From the beginning of this blog, let me say that I don’t take things like A.D.D or A.D.H.D. lightly. According to the New York Times, at least 4 percent of adults have the disorder and as many as half of all children that have A.D.H.D. do not fully outgrow it and continue to struggle with symptoms as…
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“Just like the picture”: 4 Approaches to Developing the Uniqueness of Your Marriage
Thank you for making me so wonderfully complex! Your workmanship is marvelous–how well I know it.” Psalm 139:14 As a pastor, I tend to visit the same places in my city. Admittingly, I’m a creature of habit but this goes deeper than that. I visit the same coffeehouse every day. I go to the same chicken place…
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Marriage Filters: 2 Simple Steps to Fixing Your “Filter”
– AUTHOR’S NOTE: the advice I offer today is ONLY under the idea and truth that marriage is more like a crock pot and not a microwave. Putting today’s blog into practice will be a daily choices for the long-haul and NOT a quick patch-and-fix. – With our cell phones, there has never been a…
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Beyond Words: 6 Ways to Express “I Love You” Without Words
Once in awhile, I feel the need to write a disclaimer for a blog. This is one of those blogs. DISCLAIMER: I believe in talking to each other. Communication is the oil of the engine of marriage. As it flows so does everything else. I DO NOT want you to stop talking to each other.…
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Who Didn’t Warn Me? 10 Things I Didn’t Totally Realize Before I Got Married
I can’t say “nobody” told me about these things. But I can truthfully say that I may not have heard everything that was said to me in the barrage of life that was hitting. I wrapped up my internship, accepted my first pastoral position, went through 6 weeks of sickness, oh, and got ready for my…
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Unclouding Your Communication: The 3 “Ts” of Talking
“Words kill, words give life; they’re either poison or fruit—you choose.” Proverbs 18:21 (The Message) I talk with couples all the time in a variety of locations. From coffee houses to homes to my office (my favorite is talking marriage over froyo), I love that people are taking their marriage seriously by getting outside input. Side…
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