Done with Guilt: Recap of 10 items from Sunday at KFirst #ChangeTheStation

We’re coming out of week 2 of our series “Change the Station” and Anne and I had quite a few requests for some of the notes  from the message, “Get Tuned In” as we dealt with the issue of guilt.  

Scripture: Romans 7:18-25; 8:1-6; 26-39

  1. The state of your life is usually a reflection of the state of your mind. As a man THINKS so is he!
  2. Guilt, by nature, is meant to BREAK YOU DOWN by doing 2 things:
    • Overwhelm you.
    • Overwork you.
  3. Guilt stays where it has been invited to rest.
  4. John 16:8 God has called us to live according to CONVICTION and NOT GUILT. 
  5. There’s huge differences between GUILT and CONVICTION:
    • GUILT: Causes me to think about myself through the lens of ME.
      • CONVICTION: causes me to think about myself through the lens of JESUS.
    • GUILT: Wants to wallow in sinful patterns.
      • CONVICTION: Uses Godly sorrow to identify sinful actions
    • GUILT: Wants to make you discontented and lethargic.
      • CONVICTION: Wants to push you into action. 
    • GUILT: Steals my hope by focusing on all that is wrong. 
      • CONVICTION: Give me hope because I see my wrongs through of the work of Jesus Christ.
    • GUILT’s role is to push you down on the ground. 
      • CONVICTION’s role is to get you up off the mat.
    • CONVICTION is that nudge of the Holy Spirit in our lives to point us in the right direction. 
    • CONVICTION makes uncomfortable in moments in order to move forward in a Christ-centered manner. 
    • CONVICTION puts Holy Spirit passion to our direction.
  6. Guilt is an anchor; Conviction is a baton. 
  7. The Holy Spirit helps us by…
    • 1 – Releasing you from Guilt
    • 2 – Guiding you with conviction.
    • 3 – Equipping you to live.
  8. Are we actively creating a culture of guilt instead of a culture that cultivates Holy Spirit conviction?
  9. 1 John 3:20 “…for whenever our heart condemns us, God is greater than our heart, and he knows everything.” 
  10. Holy Spirit conviction brings change that guilt can never produce.

It was  awesome to hear how God was speaking into hearts and lives.  We’re praying the response to the second half of our series is as good as the first half.  

Pastor Dave and Anne

2 Minute Devo: What are you thinking Day 19

We’re focusing on what the Bible says about the “mind” and how that affects us.  Spend time on the devo and take a minute or two to ponder what the Word is challenging you to do.

Psalm 4:4-5

Be angry, and do not sin; ponder in your own hearts on your beds, and be silent. Selah.  

Offer right sacrifices, and put your trust in the Lord.

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2 Minute Devo: What are you thinking Day 7

We’re focusing on what the Bible says about the “mind” and how that affects us.  Spend time on the devo and take a minute or two to ponder what the Word is challenging you to do.

Philippians 4:8

Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is commendable, if there is any excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, think about these things.

2 Minute Devo: Ecclesiastes Day 6

September is all about diving into the book of Ecclesiastes.  Watch the devo and read the scripture for today:


Ecclesiastes 7:2

It is better to go to the house of mourning than to go to the house of feasting, for this is the end of all mankind, and the living will lay it to heart.

Marriage Blog: Don’t think like your spouse.

Thinking blog

I’ll start of with my main point:

The goal in marriage is not the think alike.  The goal is to think together. 


There’s only one way to say it: Anne and I are different.

We were raised different.
We have different hobbies.
We have different view points on a number of things.
We speak different love languages.
We look different (she’s hot…I’m not).
I’m engulfed in sports.  She’s be fine if they’d never existed.
She craves sleep. I’m fine running off of minimal sleep with power-naps.
I am patient but hold grudges.  She has a short fuse but forgives quickly.

We are different.

So many couples get caught up on compatibility…which I think is a farce.  People feel their marriage sucks because their spouse is so, well, different from who they are.  You battle so hard with the mindset that the two of you need to think alike.  And if you don’t, something major is wrong with your marriage. I’ve had one too many appointments with people who have used the phase, “We are just too different.”  Your difference is what makes you unique.  It makes you special.  Yes, you are different. But…

…in my opinion: that is the making of a great marriage.

I’ll say it again:

The goal in marriage is not the think alike.  The goal is to think together. 

It’s time for you to stop working so hard to think alike and take the same effort and put it to thinking together.  You don’t NEED to think like your spouse. Your spouse doesn’t need you to think like them. You’ve got to get your mind out off of how different you are approaching it, and into how your differences enhance your abilities to work together.  (Immediately, my mind goes to the absolutely terrible cartoon “Captain Planet” with the war cry of “With out powers combined…”)

When scripture says in Genesis 2 that the “two become one”, we take it as we have to become something we are not.  We need to approach marriage as not losing ourselves but finding fullness first in Christ and then becoming a unit (differences and all) with our spouse.  Don’t lose who you are.  Keep being you.  Because with Christ, plus your differences, combined with your spouses differences help create “cord of three strands not easily broken” (Ecc. 4:12)

Stop worrying about thinking like him or her.  Stop stressing about how different you are.  Embrace the differences and work hard on working together.

Thanks for letting me ramble…