Category: Rambling
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Follow up from our “Live Highlight Reel” service @kalamazoofirst
It’s hard to put into words the powerful service we had yesterday at Kfirst. There have been so many comments give about the service from people who were there as well as the many who were away on vacation. “It was one of the best services ever!” “Blows my mind how God’s healing power has…
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Putting Down Your Pet: Dealing with marital pet peeves
You know you have a few pet peeves. You probably have a few more than you’d like to admit. But it’s the small stuff that can get in the way. The Wall Street Journal put out a great article on it and, I think, hits the nail on the head. “…it’s the seemingly small things…
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“Fruitful Fights”
I can’t say that Anne and I ever fought while dating. Both of us were very compromising about most issues…well every issue. I don’t think it was because we were so compatible (see “The Myth of Compatibility“). I think we had no desire to “stir the waters”. It could have been out of fear and…
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Under-appreciated: Building a Culture of Appreciation
I got a text from Anne the other day. She’s been getting in the habit of dreaming/thinking about marriage blogs during her running times (I’m beginning to rub off on her). She’s begun to make a list of needed topics for our weekly marriage blog. Today was first on her list. It amazing me how…
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Nope I’m not Brad Pitt: The Pitfalls of False Expectations
Proverbs 10:28 The expectation of the just is joy… It goes back to 2003 when my wife and I led a trip to the Dominican Republic to work in an orphanage. (Side Note: Missions trips are great for couples!) I preached in the evenings in different churches. After one service, I was approached by a woman.…
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Needed Time: A time starved marriage
**From the get go, all of the credit for this blog goes to Anne. Thanks babe for your help!! Yesterday we celebrated 15 years of marriage. Your anniversary is a time of reflection. We spent the evening eating and shopping and reminiscing over the past decade and a half. There’s no way Anne and I…
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My Loser Marriage
It’s not a mystery of my competitiveness. It seems to come out in a lot of things. I can’t say that I’m a sore loser, but of course that’s coming from me. I play to have fun…aaaaand I think it’s fun to win. Now understand, I don’t even need competition to be competitive with. Golf for…
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The Myth of Compatibility
Men and women are different. (Now that I’ve completely blown you away with that ground-breaking truth, I’ll continue.) What I’ve discovered, and continue to discover in my own marriage, is how different we continue to be. It seemed like during the whole courtship/dating process, we were so much more “compatible”. The word “compatible” means, “Able…
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Unreasonable Requests: Who me?
I can’t say that my requests from my wife are “unreasonable.” (At least not to me.) The latest one: It’s my day off and I sat down to veg just for a moment and she decides it’s time to vacuum in front of the TV. My request: “if you’re gonna do that in front of…
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Tit-for-Tat
I told Anne my blog title and idea and she adamantly warned me to do some research on the origin of the phrase before using it. The look on her face reminded me of “The Princess Bride” where Vizzini keeps using the word “inconceivable.” Inigo responds, “You keep using that word. I do not think…
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