Tag: marriage
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What does the future of your marriage look like? 3 Questions to Ask
I’m not married to the same woman I married back in 1998. Let me clarify. I’m married to the same human, but she’s not the same person. Really, neither one of us are. Marriage wasn’t meant to be a change of a title (single to married) or a feat to accomplish. Marriage is raw material…
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Pro Tips: 4 Ways to Get (& Be) Marriage Help
Ever heard of the term “pro tip”? It’s origin came from gamers who were mocking novices. Nowadays, it’s become internet slang for “tips given by professionals to those who are lesser experienced.” Simply said, a “pro tip” is information intended to help convert a novice to an expert. About 20 years ago, a very experienced pastor…
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Shed the Shame: 4 Ways Shame Adds A Burden to Our Marriage
There’s a gentleman in our church community who’s introduced me and my son to backpacking. Ethan and I have fallen in love with it. We talk about it frequently as, every time we go, we enjoy it immensely and learn something new to apply to our next experience. That, by itself, would make a good…
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Check Your Marriage Trend: 3 Steps to Building Hope and Momentum
Yesterday at Kfirst was one of those messages that I’m not ready to leave. There’s so much to say about our “trends.” But what has weighed upon my heart and woke me up last night was the “trends” we find in our marriages. A “trend” is a very simple concept that has become a “buzzword”…
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“TV saved my marriage” 4 Ways to Reconnect Your Marriage
It was the summer of ’03. Anne and I were in a store walking through with the kids secured in our double-stroller. We were in a season of life that was a bit hectic. Cammi was 3 and Ethan wasn’t even 1 yet. We were still discovering who we were as a ministry couple not…
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The Carryover: 4 Ways to Approach What You Carried Into Marriage
I had a realization about 9 years ago. At the time, my daughter was in fourth grade and I was staring at her homework and it hit me: Cammi’s math had exceeded my abilities. I could no longer help her. I’d love to say this is some sort of exaggeration, but sadly, no. Once her math…
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More than the Spider: 4 Thoughts on Bringing Value In Marriage
I hear it quite often, “There’s a huge spider. I need you to come get it.” In my home, it’s a statement both my wife and my daughter use. It never is “There’s a spider…” but “There’s a HUGE spider…” And, over time, their judgement on “size” has dulled my urgency a bit. When I…
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“Look What You Made Me Do”: 4 Thoughts on Mistakes in Marriage
About a couples years ago, I was letting my daughter back out the car and, well, she ran over the mailbox (yes I have permission from her to share this). When she ran it over, her first response was “If you wouldn’t have parked the car crooked, that wouldn’t have happened.” Enter a “dad-talk” about…
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Marriage Blog: 2 Thoughts about Navigating Through Your Differences
I’m a proponent of dating before and after marriage. Dating, in my opinion, is a very good thing on both sides of marriage. What you used to win a heart before marriage helps you keep a heart after you’ve married. But if you’re not careful, you can get deceived by the pre-marriage dating process. Let…
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Turn Signals: 2 Types of Marital Signals
We all have signals. Whether we purposely try, we operate in them all the time. I can pick up the signals from my staff on what kind of morning they’ve had just by their body language, the tone of their voice, or their silence when they come in and slam their office door. Two Sundays…
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