2 Minute Devo Series: Book of Matthew Day 2

Welcome to our 2 Minute Devos.  This month we’re going through the Book of Matthew.  Take the time to read through the passage of the day and listen to the 2 Minute Devo.

Matthew 2

Now after Jesus was born in Bethlehem of Judea in the days of Herod the king, behold, wise men[a] from the east came to Jerusalem, saying, “Where is he who has been born king of the Jews? For we saw his star when it rose[b] and have come to worship him.” When Herod the king heard this, he was troubled, and all Jerusalem with him; and assembling all the chief priests and scribes of the people, he inquired of them where the Christ was to be born. They told him, “In Bethlehem of Judea, for so it is written by the prophet:

“‘And you, O Bethlehem, in the land of Judah,
    are by no means least among the rulers of Judah;
for from you shall come a ruler
    who will shepherd my people Israel.’”

Then Herod summoned the wise men secretly and ascertained from them what time the star had appeared. And he sent them to Bethlehem, saying, “Go and search diligently for the child, and when you have found him, bring me word, that I too may come and worship him.” After listening to the king, they went on their way. And behold, the star that they had seen when it rose went before them until it came to rest over the place where the child was. 10 When they saw the star, they rejoiced exceedingly with great joy. 11 And going into the house they saw the child with Mary his mother, and they fell down and worshiped him. Then, opening their treasures, they offered him gifts, gold and frankincense and myrrh. 12 And being warned in a dream not to return to Herod, they departed to their own country by another way.

The Flight to Egypt

13 Now when they had departed, behold, an angel of the Lord appeared to Joseph in a dream and said, “Rise, take the child and his mother, and flee to Egypt, and remain there until I tell you, for Herod is about to search for the child, to destroy him.” 14 And he rose and took the child and his mother by night and departed to Egypt 15 and remained there until the death of Herod.This was to fulfill what the Lord had spoken by the prophet, “Out of Egypt I called my son.”

Herod Kills the Children

16 Then Herod, when he saw that he had been tricked by the wise men, became furious, and he sent and killed all the male children in Bethlehem and in all that region who were two years old or under, according to the time that he had ascertained from the wise men. 17 Then was fulfilled what was spoken by the prophet Jeremiah:

18 “A voice was heard in Ramah,
    weeping and loud lamentation,
Rachel weeping for her children;
    she refused to be comforted, because they are no more.”

The Return to Nazareth

19 But when Herod died, behold, an angel of the Lord appeared in a dream to Joseph in Egypt,20 saying, “Rise, take the child and his mother and go to the land of Israel, for those who sought the child’s life are dead.” 21 And he rose and took the child and his mother and went to the land of Israel. 22 But when he heard that Archelaus was reigning over Judea in place of his father Herod, he was afraid to go there, and being warned in a dream he withdrew to the district of Galilee. 23 And he went and lived in a city called Nazareth, so that what was spoken by the prophets might be fulfilled, that he would be called a Nazarene.

Avoiding my spouse!

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I was approached about 10 years ago by someone who wanted me to deal with her husband. The one-sided conversation went like this:

Can you help my husband out?  I’ve got some personal problems going on. He keeps wanting to help me with my problems and I told him to leave me alone.  It’s kinda sweet for him to offer, but they’re my problems and not his.  He needs to mind his own business.  Thanks Dave.

She wanted no reply from me.  She wanted no direction from me.  She didn’t want to deal with it. She just wanted it dealt with by me.

Fortunately, she had a spouse who wanted to help in any way he could.  Unfortunately, she wanted to AVOID any awkwardness of dealing with issues with the one person she should be able to deal with.

To say marriage is hard work is an understatement.  What can bring add to the natural difficulties of marriage is when couples AVOID having difficult conversations.  The reasons for avoidance can be all over the map.  It can be any numbers of things:
Not being comfortable talking about issues because, historically, he/she has never been able to deal with it.
No hope.  Pessimistic attitudes arise when there have been examples lived out around you that have not made it through a similar situation.
Fear of what the outcome/reaction is. Similar to being pessimistic, there’s a constant fear of the unknown that paralyses individuals to staying put instead of moving forward.
Oversights.  Like the situation described at the beginning of this blog, Some people overlook what is a deeper issue than the problem at hand.  You cannot afford to overlook the oneness that God has called you two to work in.

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The problem of avoidance can lead a couple to disastrous consequences.  Avoidance becomes almost a drug.  There’s al most a “high” you use “avoidance” and get through something difficult or awkward…and you didn’t even need to deal with it. The problem with that is the “avoidance” didn’t solve the issue.  It just hid it away.  It pacified the situation. Even worse, you’ve missed out on simple (not easy) discussions that could very well make all the difference in the type of healthy marriage you could have.

What type of things do couples avoid?
– The different in raising the kids
– Sex
– Unresolved Anger
– Problems with extended family
– Personal quirks
– Health
– Finances
– Where will you be in 5 years

Like it or not, when couples choose to avoid important conversations, like a boomerang,  those issues inevitably come back at some point.  Sure the situation may go dormant for a time. It could be a few months or years, without the problem showing its awkward face.   But one day you will experience this moment in greater capacity when you come to the realization that you would have been better off if the communication took place earlier on.

Hope is not lost (Christmas is the season of hope).  In Matthew 2, we see Magi following a star with the hope that they would see the Christ-child.  Their road was not easy.  In fact, their journey lasting over a bit of time (anywhere from 3 months to 2 years according to commentators). The road led through the palace of Herod who would desire to destroy their hope.  There was a resolve they had to have.

I need you to get some resolve brewing in your heart. If you’ve been the spouse delaying the inevitable, you can ALWAYS make the decision to have that tough conversation with your spouse.  STOP BELIEVING THE LIE THAT IT’S TOO LATE! If you have some concerns about the potential direction the conversation may take, first let your spouse know you need to talk and then ask your spouse if you can invite a third-party like a counselor or a pastor.  Perhaps having that competent outside source may be just what you BOTH need to get through awkwardness, express concerns, and discuss  things through.  This is your time to finally have that discussion that is long overdue.

What are the things you two need to be talking about? 

The Lord be your star and let him lead you through the journey of hope in your marriage. I don’t know what the journey holds.  I don’t know what difficulties you’ll find.  But I promise this: He will be Immanuel (God with you) every step of the way.

Give your spouse an early Christmas gift.  Openness starts now and avoidance dies here.

Thanks for letting me ramble…