Tag: help
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Pro Tips: 4 Ways to Get (& Be) Marriage Help
Ever heard of the term “pro tip”? It’s origin came from gamers who were mocking novices. Nowadays, it’s become internet slang for “tips given by professionals to those who are lesser experienced.” Simply said, a “pro tip” is information intended to help convert a novice to an expert. About 20 years ago, a very experienced pastor…
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A Pastor’s Response to #MeToo: 3 Thoughts for Men
I’ve been praying over how to respond to the #MeToo movement for quite a while. Being candid, I’ll tell you that I’ve put it off. Why? I’ve been so overwhelmed with so much to say, and (IMO) the fact that there are much better writers and voices to speak to what I cannot articulate regarding…
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Check Your Marriage Trend: 3 Steps to Building Hope and Momentum
Yesterday at Kfirst was one of those messages that I’m not ready to leave. There’s so much to say about our “trends.” But what has weighed upon my heart and woke me up last night was the “trends” we find in our marriages. A “trend” is a very simple concept that has become a “buzzword”…
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“TV saved my marriage” 4 Ways to Reconnect Your Marriage
It was the summer of ’03. Anne and I were in a store walking through with the kids secured in our double-stroller. We were in a season of life that was a bit hectic. Cammi was 3 and Ethan wasn’t even 1 yet. We were still discovering who we were as a ministry couple not…
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Picking up the Pieces: 4 Thoughts About Personal Brokenness
Have you ever said, “What just happened?” Me too. Last winter, I had one of “those” mornings. As I’m leaving for the day, I’m doing my best to be careful pulling my car out of the garage and I destroyed my driver’s-side mirror. I remember being physically exhausted. My mind was wide awake saying “You’re…
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The Carryover: 4 Ways to Approach What You Carried Into Marriage
I had a realization about 9 years ago. At the time, my daughter was in fourth grade and I was staring at her homework and it hit me: Cammi’s math had exceeded my abilities. I could no longer help her. I’d love to say this is some sort of exaggeration, but sadly, no. Once her math…
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More than the Spider: 4 Thoughts on Bringing Value In Marriage
I hear it quite often, “There’s a huge spider. I need you to come get it.” In my home, it’s a statement both my wife and my daughter use. It never is “There’s a spider…” but “There’s a HUGE spider…” And, over time, their judgement on “size” has dulled my urgency a bit. When I…
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“Look What You Made Me Do”: 4 Thoughts on Mistakes in Marriage
About a couples years ago, I was letting my daughter back out the car and, well, she ran over the mailbox (yes I have permission from her to share this). When she ran it over, her first response was “If you wouldn’t have parked the car crooked, that wouldn’t have happened.” Enter a “dad-talk” about…
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Pastor to Pastor: 4 Ways to Develop Your Preaching Voice
My name is Dave, I am a natural introvert who absolutely loves to preach. Sounds odd doesn’t it? My craft and my demeanor don’t come natural; both have been (and still are) in a stage of development. Don’t get me wrong, I still have my reserved or withdrawn tendencies. But the nature of my vocation…
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Marriage with Ketchup: 5 Ways to Get Perspective
I love hearing people’s stories. It’s amazing how when you stop and listen to someone you can, first show value to them by shutting up and listening. “Listening” is not waiting for your turn to talk. It’s showing genuine interest in knowing who the person is and what they’re trying to convey. Second, listening is…
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