Monday Kfirst Kickstart: “Busting Busyness” #FromThisDaySeries

Today I want to give you a place to start your week. It’s Monday and in the wake of a great weekend and a workweek ahead, sometimes you just need a “kickstart” to get focused.  So grab some coffee let’s start a great week together.

Today we continued our annual marriage series with our Kfirst community. We looked at what a marriage looks like when we take control of our time and battle busyness.

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Every one of us are spectacle to getting our schedule so busy that it overtakes us. And as believers, we look at time, not as something that manages us, but something we can manage. With the time we have upon this earth, we want to be able to leverage it for marital health instead of what breaks us apart. We believe busyness…

  • Corrupts communication.
  • Depletes intimacy.
  • Erodes our soul.

So on Sunday, we gave 3 ways to attack busyness.

  1. Get a collective unified vision for your marriage.
    • If you don’t have a vision for your marriage, someone or something else will. This is why Jesus warns homes in Luke 11:17 that “A house divided will fall.” A unified vision helps make proper decisions how to allocate your time.
  2. Redeem your time. 
    • Ephesians 5:15-16 challenges us to “…make the best of your time…” In the original language, this means to “redeem” it. We need to take back ownership our time and make sure we are properly prioritize it.
  3. Don’t allow your spouse to live off leftovers.
    • It seems like, the longer we are marriage, the more apt we are to give all of our efforts, quality time, communication, etc. to others but, when you get home, there’s not much left.
    • They way we combat that is to build margin:
      • Get some rest (proper sleep and downtime).
      • Get some recreation (have some fun together).
      • Get some relationship (date, develop your relationship).

3 Questions to ask your spouse this week:

  1. Do we have a vision for marriage?
  2. Do you feel like a priority?
  3. Do you feel I give you leftovers?

This week, humbly go over the questions and reclaim/redeem your time. Take control and build margin to is as to own your time as opposed to time owning you.

Love you all. See you Father’s Day as we go after week 3.

BTW: Here’s a song for your week

Monday Kfirst Kickstart: Living to Your Full Potential with guest Don Champion

Today I want to give you a place to start your week. It’s Monday, and sometimes in the wake of a great weekend and long workweek ahead, you just need a “kickstart” to get focused.  So grab some coffee let’s start a great week together. 

Loved the day we at Kfirst yesterday. We took a break from our series “Playlist“as we has a guest from River Valley Church, Network Pastor Don Champion. 

(Side Note: You got to check out River Valley Church’s latest album HERE)

He brought us a message from Numbers 14:6-8. There are so many people who are caught up seeing the challenges ahead and were willing to forfeit what’s next because they don’t understand the potential they possess. We need to be like Joshua and Caleb who asked themselves and the rest of the nation, “If God brought us this far, why can’t God take us forward.” We need to be like “the two.” We need to remember and embrace what He has promised if we are going to release what’s He’s placed inside of us.

The two challenges Don left us with:

  1. Allow God’s presence to shape our identity.
    • Instead of living from a place of our past; we are to live from who we are in Christ.
  2. Allow God’s presence to shape our relationships.
    • Let the Holy Spirit use to to shape those around you.
      • Look for someone to serve.
      • Look for someone to encourage.
      • Look for someone to show the love of Christ.

Would you start this week by accepting those to challenges?

  • Every morning, ask the Holy Spirit to shape something in your life. Ask Him to show you some areas that need some sculpting to better show an image of Christ in your life.
  • Each day, would you let His presence shape someone in your sphere of influence? Walk in a sensitivity to the Holy Spirit and let Him use you to serve someone.

Love you all. I’m excited to close out #Playlist on Sunday. 

BTW: We made a huge announcement on Sunday…here it is: 

Rearview Mirrors: 3 Simple Steps to Keep Your Marriage Looking Forward

“…But one thing I do:forgetting what lies behind and straining forward to what lies ahead, 14 I press on toward the goal for the prize of the upward call of God in Christ Jesus.” Philippians 3:13-14

Being a dad of a 16-year-old, I have a lot talks about using the car. In fact, I’m trying to get Cammi used to my car instead of Anne’s. It’s a bit longer and a little more of a challenge to deal with. And if she’ll get used to it, it’ll prepare her to be a better driver. 

But after she backed over my mailbox, I’ve come to realize we’ve still got some work to do. She was trying to focus on her rearview mirror and got confused. Even though she was backing up, if she’d just look in front of her, she’d see how straight (or lack-thereof) the car was. 

In a car, a windshield is ginormous in comparison to the rearview mirror. The mirror is there to assist you and not be the focal point. What’s the focal point? It’s this huge piece of safety glass in front of us called a windshield. Our eyes are to be looking forward only to access the mirror for moments of clarity.

The past is a like a rearview mirror: Give it a glance and keep going forward. Too much focus on it has catastrophic results. Unfortunately, too many couples (even singles) struggle with this. You’ve got a “windshield” to experience the present and move forward into the future. But because of some challenging seasons you’ve went through, you continue focus upon the past.  It’s then you get caught up staring and don’t realize that living in the past sacrifices the present and mortgages the future. 

How do you keep looking forward? It’s in the simplicity of what I’ve been encouraging our congregation to do every week through our marriage series, Mosaic Marriage.

1 – Encourage Effort. Encouraging effort keeps your eyes looking forward. Nobody, and I mean NOBODY, should out encourage you when it comes to your spouse. For some reason, we only encourage “successes” and not effort. And what ends up happening is, because “success” is based upon individual’s interpretation, encouragement is used very sparingly between couples. From the small moments to the large steps forward, don’t wait for results to be encouraging, cheer on the attempts move forward.  I’d rather have someone who’s failing in their efforts than failing to make ANY effort. Keep looking and moving forward by encouraging your spouse.  

2 – Celebrate Progress. Celebration is largely underestimated. Couples tend to only celibate weightier progress or large steps of progress. But can I present a thought to you? Progress, big or small, is still PROGRESS. When I was doing Weight Watchers 10 years ago, I learned that whether I lost 7 lbs. or 1 oz., it was all progress. And ANY progress is to be celebrated. Progress helps develop momentum.  It’s that momentum that helps develop the strength to move forward. Want some marriage momentum? Big  or small, celebrate progress.

3 – Feed Hope. This is how you keep your eyes looking forward. Hope fixes your focus. Like it or not, if you are not feeding “hope,” you’re feeding something else. Take your pick, despair, anger, resentment, cynicism, etc. all are bottom feeders that will find sustenance off of hopelessness.  My simple, and practical approach: Cut off what is stifling the flames.  Push past the feelings of hopelessness and foster an atmosphere of hope. Purpose in your heart that hope is just as valuable to your marriage as breathing is to your body. And the more you feed hope, the more life you breathe into the lungs of your marriage. 

Today, give the past a glance and only a glance. It’s there to assist you and not be our focus. 

Encourage Effort.
Celebrate Progress.
Feed Hope.

And remember…

The power of the past is the permission you give it to influence the present!


Thanks for letting me ramble…

2 Minute Devo #31Days – “Moving forward backwards”

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We started a new series this month called “#31Days.” What “#31Days” means is we are encouraging everyone to take the challenge of encouraging someone via social network for 31 days.  Make sure you use the hashtag!

Today’s scripture: Philippians 3:13-14 Brothers, I do not consider that I have made it my own. But one thing I do: forgetting what lies behind and straining forward to what lies ahead, I press on toward the goal for the prize of the upward call of God in Christ Jesus