The Dream that Destroys You

Usually, Monday is about closing out the documents and presentations connected to Sunday message at Kfirst. Like an old-school film room floor would be full of film clips that didn’t make it to the final edit of a movie, my notes are filled with statements and thoughts that never made it to the message.

And as I was going through that normal process, a statement caught my eye from my left-over thoughts.

Your dream will destroy you if your character can’t sustain it.

It really is a selah statement. Because, unfortunately, I’ve seen this first hand in ministry. I have watched it happen in people’s marriages. I’ve seen it pull apart families. Getting to a dream doesn’t matter if you can’t handle it. People have an idea of “what I need”, “where I need to get,” or “something I need to achieve” without thinking, “what character needs to grow IN me in order for me to steward (manage, handle) the dream that God has put in my heart.”

God isn’t honored by you achieving a dream as much as He’s honored by what is achieved in you. And that is called “character.”

This is what I hope was conveyed yesterday as we continued to look at the life of Joseph. Barely in his 20’s, he has immense influence and authority at his disposal in the home of the most powerful men of the region. And when faced with a compromising situation, his reply is stellar, “How could I do such a wicked thing? It would be a great sin against God.” (Genesis 39:9)

I love that.

Two sentences say everything you need to know about this 20-year-old. The essence of Joseph wasn’t his position with man but his position of his heart with God. He was a man of character before the position (and as you’ll learn about him) it was his character that continued to shine despite the tough seasons he’d face.

Dreams can destroy you if they are the sole goal. Dreams will rip you apart if you think attaining them is the only “win” in life. But from personal experience, there are times that God gave me dreams to go after, not because of what I needed to achieve, but because He wanted to achieve something in me. And the “win” was what the Holy Spirit accomplished in me and what I “arrived” at.

Don’t allow the dream to destroy you; let it change you. If God has giving you a vision for your life, marriage, family, vocation, etc., before you sign up for a class or quit your present job, would you start with Psalm 139 and some moments in solemn prayer. “Search my heart o God. Check my heart oh God. And change what you want to change in order that Your character will be on display within me.

Love you all. Praying for you today.

BTW: If you want to develop your character, check out my friend David’s blog, because character creates opportunity.


Thanks for letting me ramble…

Monday Kfirst Kickstart: “Forced into the Wilderness” #PivotPoint

Today I want to give you a place to start your week. It’s Monday and in the wake of a great weekend and long workweek ahead, sometimes you just need a “kickstart” to get focused.  So grab some coffee let’s start a great week together. 

I’ll be honest, this might be one of my favorite series to preach at Kfirst. “Pivot Point” has been our study of the life of Jacob. Even though he didn’t have the “model life”, God always had something beautiful in store for him. Our goal yesterday was to help people understand: “My struggle is my stepping stone, not my stopping point.” (Click here for yesterday’s notes.)


Like Jacob, we can find ourselves in a place where life hasn’t turned out quite what we thought it was going to be. So we run.  Sometimes it’s out of fear. Other times, we feel like frauds. Perhaps you’re running because you feel like a victim. Or maybe, you’re just restless. Regardless, we all run for one reason or another. And we find ourselves in a place of a struggle. For Jacob, he navigated through it by:

  1. He came to a place of rest. 
    • God gave us a sabbath. Simply stating, sabbath is about finding rest so that we can relocate our focus on trusting in God.

  2. Rest leads to revelation. 
    • When we rest, or trust, in Christ, He begins to give us new vision (dreams) for life.

You may be in the place of struggle (wilderness), but the Lord wants to take what the Enemy meant to break you to build something in you.  The “wilderness” is a place where God develops your life. And the reason why God brings you somewhere is not so you could BE somebody but so you can BLESS somebody. We are blessed to be a blessing.

Our next steps to do this week:

  1. What dream does God want to develop in me by resting in Him?
  2. How can I impact my world with what God is doing in me?

Spend some time in the Word and in prayer this week. Rest in your trust in Christ and follow the dreams He fills you with. If you need a scripture reading plan, check out this one.

Love you all.  See you on Sunday as we continue our series, “Pivot Point.”

BTW: Here’s a song this week for your devotions playlist: