Today I want to give you a place to start your week. It’s Monday and in the wake of a great weekend and a workweek ahead, sometimes you just need a “kickstart” to get focused. So grab some coffee let’s start a great week together.
Today we continued our annual marriage series with our Kfirst community.
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Yesterday we wrapped up our annual marriage series with a service called, “The Hot Seat.” We bring up a panel of some of our Kfirst marriages to share their experiences in marriage from the live questions given from the congregation. Leading into this time, we read from Psalm 119:1-8 to challenge everyone about the Gospel by saying,
The gospel isn’t just information we share; it’s a promise we receive & live in.
The question we asked in the beginning was, “What personal change, if you made it today, would make a difference in your life and/or marriage?” It’s not an easy question. So often we want to see things change around us but not necessarily in us. And it’s for this reason we challenged everyone to look at change in your marriage from a different light:
- There’s no such thing as a ME issues; only WE issues
- This prevents your spouse from feeling like they’re working alone in the marriage. If my spouse has something to work on, then we have something to work on (and vice versa).
- There are ME changes that create WE changes; The ME must change for the WE to be blessed.
- When you focus on some else’s faults, you have no time fixing yours. Craig Groeschel says “Don’t focus on what your spouse isn’t. Continue to grow into who you are supposed to be.”
So from Psalm 119:1-8 we challenged everyone to build a climate of change by
- Receiving the gospel.
- Let God’s words be the words of your story. Be open, real, and vulnerable enough to admit you’ve fallen short and see the hope that Christ offers.
- Live in the gospel.
- Be bold with truth; stand upon His promises. Be relentless with sin and courageous with obedience.
Is change comfortable? Nope. But a climate of change produces humility in our hearts and teachability in our minds. It helps us become better spouses by being more like Christ. How? Receiving what he has to say and living in response to it.
As we’ve done for the past few weeks, let me give you a few questions to ask your spouse this week:
- Are we more passionate about being right than we are about being healthy?
- Are we more passionate about getting what we want than getting what we need?
- Are we more passionate about seeing change in our spouse than experiencing change in our lives?
This week, humbly go over the questions. But I’d challenge you to not forget the first one from the beginning of the message: “What personal change, if you made it today, would make a difference in your life and/or marriage?”
Love you all.
See you this Sunday!!.
BTW: Here’s a song for your week