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Today I want to give you a place to start your week. It’s Monday and in the wake of a great weekend and a workweek ahead, sometimes you just need a “kickstart” to get focused.  So grab some coffee let’s start a great week together.

Today we kicked off our annual marriage series with our Kfirst community. We looked at what a marriage looks like when the essence of the Gospel is embedded in the marriage.  (Click here for yesterday’s notes.)

Our series is about looking at the daily decision to build our marriage through 4 areas shown in the example of how Jesus (groom) responds to us the Church (bride). We view each of the “4 Pillars” in a light that says, “From this day forward, I choose to grow and strengthen our marriage by asking questions, not from the aspect of “what’s missing” but “where can we start to work.”

1. Grace
   • Question for my spouse: Do I lack grace in any area?
     • Grace Strengthens – 2 Timothy 2:1
     • Grace Labors – 1 Corinthians 15:10
     • Grace Serves – 1 Peter 4:10
     • Grace Responds – Romans 5:20-21
2. Sacrifice
   • Question for my spouse: Am I more selfish than sacrificial?
3. Servanthood
   • Question for my spouse: Is there anything I need to stop or start doing?
4. Forgiveness
   • Question for my spouse: Is there anything we need to make right?
   • 4 Parts of Forgiveness
     • 1 – Confession “I was wrong…I don’t blame others, I own it”
     • 2 – Sorrow “I am sorry for…” (It’s being sorry for a specific.
     • 3 – Request “Will you forgive me?”
     • 4 – Response “ I forgive you.”

Every one of us have been given a legacy of marriage. There wasn’t a choice about what we have been handed. But we do have a choice about what we will hand the generation that will follow. So we have determined “from this day forward,” we are going to leave a legacy that shows the Gospel of Jesus at the center of our marriage.

This week, would you sit down with your spouse and honestly and humbly ask the four questions? Would you be open to hearing not what YOU lack but what the BOTH of you can work on together?

Love you all.  Join us this Sunday as we continue our annual marriage series “From This Day Forward.”

BTW: Here’s a song for your week!